HOW DO YOU HEAL FROM ABANDONMENT HURTS? Ask The Doctor Dr. Leland Heller Biological Unhappiness HOW DO YOU HEAL FROM ABANDONMENT HURTS? Question: I’m in my first month of my therapeutic community here in England, I can see the benefits of being here already, I’m so much calmer after just four weeks. In your expert opinion what is the best way to ‘heal the abandonment wound?’ I have seen various books on the Internet but am unsure which way to turn? Kind regards. Dr. Heller’s Answer: As children we depend on a consistent loving environment in order to grow healthy. Newborns deprived of love can literally die of love starvation. When abandonment issues are a problem, they usually become “hard wired” in the brain, making them even more difficult to overcome. Counseling is always a good idea in this regard. Learning to change the way you think and feel about yourself and your worthiness is crucial. The affirmations, books and tapes all help this. The right medications make all the difference in the world. The key however is a spiritual one. When you understand and “know” that your pain and suffering weren’t a punishment or a mistake, it’s a lot easier to overcome those hurts. I have found that love, forgiveness and spirituality are the only solutions. I frequently recommend listening to Wayne Dyer’s tape “101 Ways to Transform Your Life.” There are many books I recommend in this regard as well: 1) “Embraced By the Light” by Betty Eadie 2) “The Other Side and Back” by Sylvia Browne – ignore the predictions at the end. 3) “Journey of Souls” By Michael Duff Newton 4) “Where God Lives” by Dr. Melvin Morse 5) “Many Lives, Many Masters” by Dr. Brian Weiss 6) “Happiness is a Choice” by Barry Neil Kaufman 7) “Messages from the Masters” by Dr. Brian Weiss 1999 2000 2001 2002 2003 2004 2005 2006 2007 2008 2009 Ask the Doctor Home MENU: Screening Test “Ask the Doctor” (BPD)Borderline Personality Disorder Annual Updates Biological Unhappiness Disorders & Official Criteria Dr. Heller’s C.V. & Picture How Dr. Heller Got Involved If You Want to See Dr. Heller as a Patient Testimonials Table of Contents for the Book ‘Biological Unhappiness’ How to Order “Life at the Border” Why Read ‘Biological Unhappiness’? Goals AD(H)D and Relationships BPD, Bipolar or ADHD? Suicide What if BuSpar makes me anxious or ill? A Suicide Attempt Per Minute in the US Grandparents raising Grandchildren Information About Children What Signs are there that Someone May ‘SNAP’? TV & Cartoon Characters with Depression & Other Disorders Dr. Heller’s Office Website Dr. Heller’s Lectures Mentally Healthy People Retraining the Brain Today is a Gift Reviews Links Webrings Site Index Home Video DVDs now available! You can watch and listen to Dr. Heller in the comfort and convenience of your own home. Provides full explanations and treatment descriptions of Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) – 90 minutes, other Biological Unhappiness disorders – 90 minutes. Click here to find out more about Dr. Heller’s educational videos. “Biological Unhappiness” “Open this book and it will open your mind. By combining proven medical procedure with hope and inspiration, Dr. Heller has made a significant difference in thousands of patients who had little hope for recovery. “Biological Unhappiness” contains critical information for those who have lost hope.”Zig Ziglar, motivational speaker, author, See You at the Top, Over the Top, Success for Dummies, Raising Positive kids in a Negative World. Dr. Leland Heller Dyslimbia Press, Inc. 1713 US Hwy 441 N, Suite E Okeechobee, FL 34972 863-467-8771 Email: Hours: M-Thu. 8:30AM-5PMFri. 8:30AM-12 Noon*(*During November through April, the office is open until 3PM on Fridays.) All material not explicitly credited otherwise is copyrighted © 1999-2011 Dr. Leland Heller. All Rights Reserved. May not be duplicated without the permission of Dr. Leland Heller or Dyslimbia Press. Biological Unhappiness, BiologicalUnhappiness.com, & Dyslimbia Press are trademarks of Dr. Leland HellerDesigned and/or hosted by the webmasters at: US-Webmasters.com (TM) Start here to find it FAST!(TM)