What Can I Do To Stop Feeling So Miserable?

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Dear Dr. Heller,

I was never miserable as a child.  I came from a Brady Bunch family.  I don’t know what my problem is.  For the last couple of years I’ve been depressed.  After my first love left me, I tried to commit suicide.  I felt so lost and saw no hope.  I always feel insecure and need constant reassurance in relationships.  I read about personality disorders, and connected most with dependent personality disorder.  My biggest fear is rejection.  If someone leaves me I go out of control.  I fly into a rage and feel this intense heat come over my body.  I always feel like its my fault, and end up in total depression.  Some days I have road rage so bad and feel like “so what” if someone hurts me, it will be better than feeling this pain.

Also I’ve noticed that all I do is complain about my problems, and the solution to me seems out of reach.  I read your list for mentally happy people and realized that I put my happiness second to the person whom I’m in a relationship with for fear of rejection.  I know that is not normal and it scares me.  I carry anger around with me everywhere, mainly for lacking self confidence in every aspect of my life.  I can remember as early as the second grade not finishing a project because I thought that mine could never look as good as my friends.

I know this is long, but I’ve never spoken so openly about myself.  Now that I look back at what I’ve wrote I can’t help but feel like I’m defective in someway.  I envy happy people.  I don’t want to live my life miserable and afraid anymore.

Please help.

 

ANSWER:

You appear to have some medically treatable diagnoses.  Prozac should have a profound effect in stopping some of the depression, rejection sensitivity, chronic anger and moodiness.  The screening test I use for my patients may be of help.  You possibly have the BPD as well, and I’d recommend you read http://pks.947.myftpupload.com/AskDoc/First-Do.htm

What Are The Side Effects From Stopping Effexor?

    What Are The Side Effects From Stopping Effexor?

    QUESTION:

    Dear Dr. Heller,

    What are the side effects from stopping Effexor?

     

    ANSWER:

    Venlafaxine (Effexor) can have significant withdrawal symptoms that can include: Dizziness, dry mouth, insomnia, nausea, nervousness, sweating, lost appetite, diarrhea, sleepiness and low blood pressure.

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What Signs Show Elaine from Seinfeld has ADD?

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Dear Dr. Heller,

The Characters list, (*Love it btw!!!),  I do have a question.  What makes Elaine Bennis (Seinfeld) ADHD? As an adult female ADDer myself I kinda see it, but can’t explain it. Other than she can’t hold down a job…. I have a definite affinity for her.

Thanks!!!

ANSWER:

Thank you for your kind comment. I didn’t realize it when I hired them, but almost everyone who works for me has ADD. My wife does as well. It works out well since I have a great memory for what happened today and yesterday – which they’re not particularly good at, and they’re sensational at names and things from a week or more ago. Somewhat characteristic for ADD. The character list was a collection of everyone’s ideas, particularly since I really don’t have the time to watch much network TV. The reasons behind her choice were her hyperness, irritability when things go wrong, acting without thinking, speaking without thinking, the instability in her life, and her impulsivity. Incidentally, now that my shoulder is healing, look on my site shortly for an article I’m writing called “Not only is ADD not a disease, it’s a huge advantage.” If you have ADD, I know you’ll like to read it. Also, since ADD is genetic, it may help your children some day as well.

Is Effexor To Blame For My Weight Gain?

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Dear Dr. Heller,

I am a 35 year old female who has suffered from depression since 18 years of age and treated with pharmaceuticals since my mid twenties.  I have been on many types of antidepressants except for the MAOI’s and tricyclics.  At age 29 and following the birth of my twins 3 months prematurely I became devastatingly depressed.  It was a gradual decline that took 10 months before things became critical and required hospitalization.  That is when I was put on Effexor and it saved my life, literally.  Within 2 weeks I was feeling tons better.  Within 6 months I was able to return to work.

I have been on the Effexor for 6 straight years now and have never felt better except for the years prior to 18 y/o.  BUT…I have gained almost ONE HUNDRED POUNDS!  It is so hard to keep my head above water mood-wise when my weight has spiraled, despite my eating habits.  I do experience the usual side effects which at times can be troublesome but not so much so that I have wanted to be off the drug.  I have trouble falling asleep at night, and when I do fall asleep I do not move at all – which makes me very stiff and sore when I wake.  I have terrible somnolence to the point that I’m sure I could fall asleep walking in the corridors at work, or fall asleep talking to someone.  This side effect eases considerably after I have been awake for about 6 hours.  But when I have it, it is absolutely uncontrollable drowsiness.  I yawn constantly.  At the onset of treatment I felt like I had a potato in my throat and had to sleep sitting upright and chew gum even in my sleep.  That side effect subsided but occasionally resurfaces for no reason at all.

The only other side effect I’ve had all through the six years has been chronic gastric reflux.  This has been more or less troublesome at varying times, but over the counter antacids and acid blocking agents have worked well for me.  I also believe the sensation of having a potato in my throat is a referred sensation from the gastric reflux because antacid also would relieve some of the sensation in my throat.  I must add that one of the side effects that was positive for me was the anti-anxiety properties of the drug.  I have suffered from social anxiety my whole life, and in my profession as a nurse (15 years), I have to speak in front of my peers on multi-disciplines.  I’ve always had a sensation of “dying inside” when I have to speak, even to close acquaintances and family, but more so in group situations whether or not I know the listeners.  One day about a year ago, I suddenly realized I was no longer “dying inside” when I was forced to speak.  I still get nervous, but I imagine it to be a “normal” degree of nervousness and not the debilitating anxiety I was always plagued with.  Before it was physically painful and now it’s just a pain in the butt.

Anyway, long story short, I wanted to read your WebPage about Effexor and weight gain but I can’t seem to get to the actual page because the link at the site keeps taking me to the main index page of your website.  If you could give me a direct link to the page I would be most grateful.  Any other information you might be able to add would be helpful as well.  I have become so discouraged with my weight that I have been considering changing medication, but I am terrified at the same time.  I have been well now for 6 straight years and that is the longest period I have been well since my illness began.  The thought of getting sick again in the name of weight loss is terrifying.  Nonetheless, as I am 35 and not getting any younger, being 100 lbs.  overweight is not a good thing.

Please help.

 

ANSWER:

Weight gain is a rare side effect for Effexor, and there have been no reports in the literature about this phenomenon.  If this is due to the Effexor, the FDA needs to know about it. If the Effexor has caused the weight gain, then you’ll need to be treated with alternative medications.  The screening test I use for my patients may give clues to additional diagnoses that might be present.  Effexor treats many diagnosis, especially in high doses.  Side effects are a problem. Post partum depression is often due to low thyroid – which can be worsened on rare occasions by Effexor.  Getting your thyroid checked and treated if necessary is extremely important.

What Do You Think Of The Combination Of Effexor And Zyprexa?

    What Do You Think Of The Combination Of Effexor And Zyprexa?

    QUESTION:

    Dear Dr. Heller,

    Please comment on this combination (Effexor and Zyprexa) of medications for treatment of chronic depression/BPD.

     

    ANSWER:

    Some practitioners describe great results with Effexor, particularly at high doses.  I’ve not had that experience.  In theory this combination should be a good one for chronic depression and the BPD, but in practicality side effects are going to be a huge problem.  In my experience there are better options. Effexor needs to be taken in high doses to get the best BPD effectiveness, usually 300-450mg daily.  At this dose high blood pressure and other side effects can be a problem (nervousness, insomnia, nausea, dry mouth, dizziness and others). Zyprexa is a very effective medication, particularly when the thinking processes aren’t clear.  Weight gain is usually an insurmountable problem for long term use – 25 to 100 pound weight gain is common.  Some people complain that they “have no feelings” while taking Zyprexa.  I use it short term, particularly for those patients who are extremely underweight and have no appetite.

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Is Effexor An SSRI Or A MAO Inhibitor?

QUESTION:

Dear Dr. Heller,

I am a Chaplain.  I deal mostly in Critical Incidents counseling and the elderly through Adult Protective Services.  However, I do deal with a great number of people that have a biological disorder.  My wife is Bipolar, she is on 900 mg of Lithium a day and 225 mg of Effexor a day.  My question is this, is Effexor an SSRI drug or an MAOI?  She takes certain over the counter drugs for her sinus at times and they say do not take them if you are using Anti-depressants such as an MAOI.  I am not sure if Effexor is considered an MAOI or not, I thought it was an SSRI.  Now, if it is an MAOI, do you have a suggestion as to what over the counter drug she can take for colds and so forth?  I hope you can clear this up for me.

Thank you for your time.

 

ANSWER:

Effexor is not an MAO inhibitor.  It has different effects on the serotonin, noradrenaline and dopamine systems – depending upon the dose.  It’s not a typical SSRI like Prozac or Paxil however.  Unless high doses of Effexor are being used, there is rarely a problem taking cold medications.  The biggest risk is high blood pressure, since Effexor can raise the blood pressure and some people are sensitive to ephedrine and pseudoephedrine (Sudafed).  Monitoring the blood pressure can determine if a problem exists in this area.