- Is There A Connection Between BPD And Abusive Partners?
QUESTION:
Dear Dr. Heller,
Hi, I wanted to know if there is a connection with those who have BPD and are married to abusive partners. I have BPD and seem to have the pattern of marrying men who are abusive. Currently, I am married to a very abusive man and cannot seem to break free. I do not trust myself with decisions, and I don’t know if it is because of my BPD or just a factor of the abuse I have suffered. Let me know if you have found this to be true.
ANSWER:
It is indeed common. There are many reasons such as tolerating the level of anger, feeling profoundly relieved when a spell is over (which can stop a dysphoric spell), self-hate, etc.
